I decided to write a post about something that I have recently found, and that is happiness. In the last year, I spent a lot of time feeling very stuck. I was stressed and confused and I didn’t know who I was and who I wanted to be. Growing up isn’t something that is easy and I spent a lot of time thinking life was unfair to me and I wasn’t appreciating what I had right in front of me. It isn’t that I was particularly unhappy but looking back now I don’t think I was truly happy. My dad pointed out that I was writing all these blog posts about stepping out of your comfort zone and accepting yourself and despite writing all this inspiration, I wasn’t following it myself. He was constantly telling me to “be my blog” and it dawned on me that he was right and I needed to take my own advice. It was only the other week whilst on a walk that I realised how happy I was, and nothing in my life had changed except my attitude.
A few months ago I read a truly inspiring book called “The Happiness Project” which is fabulously written by a woman who spent a year focusing on improving her quality of life and feeling happy. She constantly mentions her list of “resolutions for life”. She compiled a list of statements that she will live by. This got me thinking about the things that I pushed myself to do that changed my attitude and outlook on life.
Saying yes is something that comes easily to a lot of people, I used to frequently say no to a lot of things as I felt like it would just add stress or create hassle. Trying something new or stepping out of my comfort zone I’d constantly say no to. Now I see myself saying yes so much more I find that I am a lot happier as I’m not restricting myself to a specific routine of life. I’m a creature of habit and I love everything to be scheduled and planned so I am “mentally prepared” for what’s going to happen next. I lost the essence of spontaneity which can bring incredible surprises and I managed to find it again by just saying yes.
Focusing on the here and now+
Our minds tend to constantly drift off and enter a state of worry or stress over things happening in the future. The famous author Mark Twain wrote “I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened.” We all spend an endless amount of time worrying about things happening in the past or future when worrying is never going to change anything and it takes our mind away from focusing on what’s happening right in front of us, right now in our lives.
When you were a child you were told numerous times not to be selfish, but as I’ve grown up I’ve discovered that you have to be selfish sometimes in order to be happy. You haven’t been put on this earth to please other people and you have to think about yourself most of the time. Don’t feel guilty for being selfish and doing what you want to do. I could probably write a whole blog post about being selfish but I’m going to sum it up by saying that it’s imperative to do what makes you happy, life isn’t about impressing people.
Finding something you’re truly passionate about
“Find three hobbies you love, one to make you money, one to keep you in shape, and one to be creative.” Everyone has a passion and it can take time to find it which is incredibly frustrating. I spent a lot of time thinking musical theatre was my passion and I’d pursue it as a career but when I lost my adoration for it and I was stuck in a rut thinking “what am I going to do with my life now” I felt that I’d lost what defines me. Plans and dreams change and it’s not the end of the world when something doesn’t work out for you and I have found plenty of things that I am passionate about such as writing and reading that bring me happiness and give me a sense of purpose. It’s all about finding what you love and devoting your time to doing it in order to become a better person.
Make self care a priority
Finally I wanted to explain about how self care is the most significant element in complete and utter happiness. I hate to refer to the awful term “yolo” but you do only live once, you have one body and one mind and looking after that is essential. You should only surround yourself with people that have a positive impact on your life; you don’t want toxic friends repeatedly bringing you down. Make sure you focus on yourself every so often, have alone time and enable yourself to relax and distance yourself from anything negative.
This is probably the longest blog post I’ve ever written but it’s something I am very passionate about and I want everyone who might be struggling to take my advice and change your life by simply changing their attitude and way of thinking.
Now I spend my time seeing the positive in everything. Especially as I am sat here recovering from a knee operation unable to walk or leave the house but I’m having a fantastic time writing and listening to Taylor Swift’s new album. If I’d been struck by this obstacle this time last year I think I would have been lying in my bed wallowing in my own self pity. Looking back it shows how much my new attitude to life has made a difference. It really is the little things in life that bring the most joy.