So please ask yourself: What would I do if I weren’t afraid? And then go do it.
In life we are constantly seeking comfort and safety. We are anxious about change and hesitant about taking risks, jeopardising our future and the ability to live a life full of excitement. I believe we all need to be honest with ourselves and step out of our comfort zone in order to live a fulfilling life. If I told you that in ten years time your life would be exactly the same as it is now, you would be disappointed. So why are you so afraid of change?
If we don’t try new things, meet new people or travel to new places we are inevitably going to be stuck with the same life and the same memories. As well as many other people I struggle with change, I struggle to be spontaneous and do things I have never done before because of fear, but fear of what?
Fear of the unknown is something that everyone struggles with, and sometimes we don’t even realise it. We like routine, we like everything in our lives to stay neat and tidy, every inch of our life planned out. Yet everything doesn’t go to plan. You can spend hours planning out your ideal future but somewhere along the way a spanner is going to be thrown into the works and you need to be prepared to face this.
“It’s a terrible thing, I think, in life to wait until you’re ready. I have this feeling now that actually no one is ever ready to do anything. There is almost no such thing as ready. There is only now. And you may as well do it now. Generally speaking, now is as good a time as any.” -Hugh Laurie
Everyone is waiting to step out into the real world, they think the “real world” starts when you leave school, graduate from university or get a job. However realistically you have been in the real world your whole life, so stop waiting and start living it. We are always waiting for summer, for our next birthday or a special event. Although it is good to have things to look forward to, we are missing what is happening right now, constantly wishing our lives away. There is a famous quote “The days are long but the years are short”. Whilst every day may seem like a constant battle to someone struggling or it may feel like the days drag because you aren’t enjoying your job or your education. This is your chance recognise this and do something about it. If you don’t enjoy doing something, don’t do it. It’s like when you start reading a book that you can’t stand but you feel obliged to finish it because you’ve already started it. You don’t have to finish it, no one is telling you that you have to finish it. So why would you do something that you don’t enjoy and waste the precious time in your life when you could be using the moment to be enjoying yourself and pursuing what makes you happy.
It’s an incredible thing when you start living and doing something that you love. You will stop wishing for the weekend or the holidays. You will live in the moment and that is when you truly become yourself, when you are honest with yourself in what you love and spend your time embracing that. Trust me, you will be a lot happier in the long run and will have a new perspective on the way your life should be lived.
So I advise you all to step out of your comfort zone, try new things and find your passion. Find the one thing that your heart beats for. Recognising the joy in life is something that takes time to do, but only when we get more comfortable being uncomfortable and push ourselves, do we really discover who we are and why we are here. You are defined by what you love, how you spend your time and how you live your life. Someone merely just living in the world, playing it safe, not raising their voice or fulfilling their ambitions is someone that will live a very monotonous life. Be fearless and take a risk once in a while, because when you look back you will be a lot happier and you’re biggest regrets will be the things you never did.
“Happiness is achieved when you stop waiting for it and make something of the moment you are in right now.”